Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Ladies, Cut the Drama...

Ladies, do you know what kills me sometimes when we're in so called relationships with dudes. Its how we get so attached to them so fast. (I'm only saying we cause I'm a female too) We basically already know from jump street what the relationship is about. Whether its going to be just a fling or a cut buddy. Yeah, sometimes guys lead us on but we already know what time it is. Its our emotions getting played and we're only getting played if we allow ourselves to get play. Lets cut the drama out.

All the "I can't believe he's doing this to me" or "I can't believe he's with her" or still with her. "Why doesn't he call me?" Your basically causing yourself to look dumb. You are also creating feelings for someone who probably doesn't feel the same way. Just because you're having or had sex with a person doesn't automatically put claim on that person. Or even means that your a couple.

What kills me even more that's crazy? Its when females try to confront the other female. Its almost never the other females fault. Its either your own for creating the attached feelings and allowing it to happen or the guy's fault if indeed you are in a relationship with him. Let's be realistic about it ladies, whose choice was it? He wasn't forced. So, then I would say he was not loyal to you, totally disrespectful, untrustworthy, etc etc.

Keep this in mind ladies. Don't be a puppet. Be the puppeteer. Control the situation. It will eliminate a bunch of the unnecessary stress, drama, and confusion. If you don't know, get the relationship clarified so that you both know. This reaction can go both ways. Its just more common for women to react this way. I would just love to see more women having more control of the men's kryptonite.